It always fascinated me how people go from loving you madly to nothing at all, nothing. It hurts so much. When I feel someone is going to leave me, I have a tendency to break up first before I get to hear the whole thing. Here it is. One more, one less. Another wasted love story. I really love this one. When I think that its over, that I’ll never see him again like this… well yes, I’ll bump into him, we’ll meet our new boyfriend and girlfriend, act as if we had never been together, then we’ll slowly think of each other less and less until we forget each other completely. Almost. Always the same for me. Break up, break down. Drunk up, fool around. Meet one guy, then another, fuck around. Forget the one and only. Then after a few months of total emptiness start again to look for true love, desperately look everywhere and after two years of loneliness meet a new love and swear it is the one, until that one is gone as well. There’s a moment in life where you can’t recover any more from another break-up. And even if this person bugs you sixty percent of the time, well you still can’t live without him. And even if he wakes you up every day by sneezing right in your face, well you love his sneezes more than anyone else’s kisses.
Scenes that struck me deeply:
- When Amir hit Hossan with ripe tomatoes and asked Hossan to hit him back, and Hossan picked up a tomato slowly, and hit himself in the face. Really bought home the status difference, and how, at their young age, they knew about it
- When Hossan was “bullied” and Amir stood by. I hope this would not be cut in the cinemas. Really the turning point of their relationship. Amir obviously loved telling stories, and Hossan obviously loved listening to them, but Amir stopped telling Hossan stories.
- The scene at the orphanage
- When Hossan’s son used a cataput to hit his captor (who had “bullied his dad years ago)… really de javu
- When Amir’s father in law attacked Hossan’s son and Amir defended him
- When Amir told Hossan’s son that he would do it “for you, a thousand times over”
- “There is a way to be good again.”
- “For you, a thousand times over.”
- I dream that my son will grow up to be a good person, a free person. I dream that someday you will return to revisit the land of our childhood. I dream that flowers will bloom in the streets again… and kites will fly in the skies!
- “Children aren’t coloring books. You don’t get to fill them with your favorite colors.”
hahaha… another list of movies I wanna watch but prob will not watch…
1. 27 dresses
2. kite runner
Was talking to a friend just now when I realised that I do admire martial arts stars a lot… Seem to draw quite a few of my principles from them
I remember reading in this book once, long long ago about his rather unique style of martial arts. He was said (in that book) to have learnt every style he could, and to keep and assimilate what he found to be good and useful, and to discard the rest. I guess that sort of ignited my “passion” for learning… so that I can see what is useful and to try to use them in my life
Other interesting quotes from him:
- “Circumstances hell! I make circumstances!” – Bruce Lee
- “Ever since I was a child I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one’s potential.”
- “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
- “If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”
- “Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.”
- “Man, the living creature, the creating individual, is always more important than any established style or system.”
- “Notice that the stiffest tree is most easily cracked, while the bamboo or willow survives by bending with the wind.”
- “Take no thought of who is right or wrong or who is better than. Be not for or against.”
- “The future looks extremely bright indeed, with lots of possibilities ahead – big possibilities. Like the song says, “We’ve just begun.”
- “The less effort, the faster and more powerful you will be.”
I recall reading in Reader’s Digest years (possibly a decade ago) that he once said “If you don’t lie, you don’t have to remember your lies. Lies lead to more lies”.
Clarification: I don’t lie. Not often, anyway. But it really made me think. Those brain cells that you spend remembering those lies can be better used to live a fuller life, right?
More good quotes:
- I never wanted to be the next Bruce Lee. I just wanted to be the first Jackie Chan.
- I just want people to remember me like I remember Buster Keaton. When they talk about Buster Keaton or Gene Kelly, people say, ‘Ah yes, they good.’ Maybe one day, they remember Jackie Chan that way.
- Don’t try to be like Jackie. There is only one Jackie. Study computers instead.
- Do not let circumstances control you. You change your circumstances.
- If you’ve got the guts, you do it. All of my stuntmen have gotten hurt.
- A lot of people ask me when I do a stunt, ‘Jackie, are you scared?’ Of course I’m scared. I’m not Superman.
The last one resonated with me… Mark Twain has said, Courage is not the absence of fear. It is acting in spite of it. How very true!
Must admit I know very little about Jet Li, but here’s a few quotes about him that I like…
- A weapon isn’t good or bad, depends on the person who uses it.
- I believe the world is one big family, and we need to help each other.
Especially like the first one… it’s not the camera that matters, but the photographer!
Just realised… I won’t have to worry about getting tickets for this year’s chingay… damn damn damn… I’m WORKING BOTH NIGHTS OK…. damn damn damn….
Anyway, was flipping through the book “A return to modesty” by Wendy Shalit. Something struck me. Friends were telling me they want to have many choices, to have many men “wooing” … to have many choices. Wear skirt (shorter ones), use more make up, have long hair etc (rephrased and paraphrased and combined).
Here’s a summary of the pages I’ve just read…
– it’s appalling adivce
– this thing about “many men”: is it a compliment or a life sentence? Since I do honestly just aspire for ONE man. Can I decline?
– Is it true then that “if you do not have many men, you’re not pretty?”
are boys who learn debating less likely to be henpecked? hmm…..